‘Someone who isn’t constantly conscious of their masculinity’: Women of Reddit Discuss Important Green Flags to Look For in a Man

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Briana Viser • Writer and Editor
Mar 9, 2024 12:00 PM EST

Welcome goddesses of the universe. We have gathered here today to glean important opinions about men from women. Humility is a virtue, and a humble man is something we all like to see. When you're humble, you allow yourself to take critique, realizing that you, like everyone else, have things in the world to learn. You're not perfect, so why act like you are? A defensive man can be infantile to say the least, unattractive at best, and simply a man we don't want to have in our lives. 

So if we can see those red flags from a mile away, what are the green flags? And how many 'red flags' do we let swing before we give the ax? I guess everyone has their own line, their own threshold, and it depends what the red flag is and how frequent they come up. Green flags are useful tools to decipher who deserves to be in our lives, and who doesn't.

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    r/AskReddit 20 hr. ago No-Singer6846 Girls, what is the greenest flag you can find in a guy?
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    Moal 11h ago One thing I really liked about my husband when we first started dating was his emotional intelligence and how much emotional labor he put into maintaining his relationships.
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    He often called his mom and younger siblings just to see how they were doing. Hel scheduled hangouts with his friends, talked to them daily, gave them emotional support when they went through hard times. He sent birthday gifts to everyone, even if it was sometimes just a digital gift card on the day of. And of
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    course, he's always been very doting on me. He's now a super engaged dad, and I'm really glad that our son has a positive male role model like him.
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    Even_Yak7478 • 6h ago I never comment- but I've got one. 20 years ago my boyfriend and I were eating in a Bavarian style sausage haus. They offered a (now discontinued) sausage buffet. Just an absurd amount of different sausages and spaetzle and sauerkraut and applesauce, blah blah blah.
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    The table next to us ordered the buffet (we all did- literally everyone ordered the buffet) and they seemed like a nice regular couple. However, after eating a couple plates worth of food, they each went back to the buffet and loaded up their plates. And I mean, LOADED their plates. Then they called the waitress over and asked for
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    the check and to go boxes. Of course they were denied, they complained, the manager came, denied them again, they paid the bill and left, mightily. The restaurant is always busy, the hostess seated the next guy before the book was picked up. He casually picked up the book and saw that the previous couple had
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    not only given no tip, but left a note. With zero hesitation he pulled out his wallet and stuck a twenty in there and took the paper with the writing. The waitress came, he gave her the book with no comment, then ordered a beer and the buffet. Couple minutes later his girlfriend or wife and I think her mom came and joined
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    him. I don't think he mentioned it at all. At least not while I was being nosy. My husband and I call him the Righteous
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    Wilmaaaaa 13h ago My dad used to brush the snow off my mom's car and heat it up for her before she gets in!
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    Majesticats2 Honesty. Like, even when it is a hard truth, he still tells you. You can have all of the ● 11h ago communication in the world, but that means nothing if he isn't honest.
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    MsNardDog 15h ago ● Compassion. Especially towards animals and children.
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    pvssiprincess 17h ago ● Someone who has contingency plans for a number of situations Also someone who can keep chill in the direst situations
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    MoonMan_999 • 13h ago After reading all the comments i think its my looks after all lol
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    NeedsltRough 14h ago For me I love it when a guy can take himself not-so-seriously, I guess When he can be goofy with me, when he can do embarrassing things with confidence, when he'll let himself try new, possibly scary things without pushback
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    I don't like, want to force him to do things he's uncomfortable with but I see it as kind of a red flag when you suggest he try something and you're immediately shot down, even though he's never tried it before. Like a new food, or a cute little game of skill, or a physical challenge I saw in a video or something.
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    Michelle 90 13h ago Empathy, good communication, relaxed, Emotional Intelligence, ambition (whatever that may be in)
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    Irenemiku ● 15h ago The formula1 guy waving the green flag to let directors know that all cars are in position.
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    Tabletop Sam. 13h ago Takes no for an answer, listens to your opinions, and treats you like a normal human being.
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    itsya... 12h ago • Edited 8h ago ● Putting the shopping cart back into its corral instead of just leaving it in the parking lot. It shows empathy and an unspoken courtesy for other people.
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    Edit: this doesn't pertain to just shopping carts y'all. It can be opening doors for people, throwing your trash away, being patient with a cashier, etc. It's more the act of simply being empathetic towards others even when there's no rule or reward for you to do these things.
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    youronlynora • 19h ago Respectful, soft-spoken, and empathetic
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    Winologue 10h ago Actions matching words
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    Capable_Hyena 7705 12h ago Someone who isn't constantly conscious of their masculinity or what their friends think
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    IrwinLinker1942 • 12h ago EFFORT. A guy who will put forth effort to see you, make you feel special, and show interest in you as a whole person is a green flag.
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    I dated and users for a while before I met my boyfriend and the difference is night and day. The other guys would frequently cancel plans with me or just ghost me altogether and could barely pretend to give a about anything I said or cared about. I always felt like I was giving interviews to them when we would talk because
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    they just talk about themselves nonstop and want to be praised for it. My boyfriend lived two hours away from me when we first started dating and I was so scared that that meant the wouldn't even bother. When he drove to me every weekend as soon as work was done, I was
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    floored. The third weekend he came to see me, I was really sick with the flu and he brought me a care package with medicine and sleepy tea and candy. We've been together over a year now and living together for six months and I couldn't be happier!
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